Happy Tuesday, hope you guys have had a good start to this week, im happy you’re here! Im here writing to you today because I went through a minute where I allowed myself to rest. A lull. A reset if you will.I didn’t think it was going to be very transformative and I didn’t want to post anything about it because one thing I wish I was better at was less chatter, more action. I write you to on the other side with my little mental reset behind me and thought I would share. I feel there is value in things that actually work, help, and make me a better person and I hope you take something away from this today!

In a society obsessed with bettering yourself ( which i love most of the time), its impossible not to be inspired and uplifted everywhere you turn. Positive quotes fill my Instagram stories and my audible book Girl, Wash your face has been anxiously waiting for me to hit play and start listening. However, I felt like I was in a season of life where I just want to curl up and hang with Gavin and the kids, stay away from my blog and anything that pushes me to do the “extra”.

I felt like I was tricked into thinking that busy-ness and progression are the only ways to live positively.

I wouldn’t call it a funk as much as much as a rest or a mindful reset, not because of any specific reason but just because I honestly just wanted to feel less inspired  by what society wanted me to feel was positive and more what I felt in my heart.

So  I listened to myself, and I gave myself some time. Without talking about it to anyone, except Gavin of course.

I didn’t fall into a trap of sadness, in fact I was totally happy and enjoying it. I think there is this weird idea that if we aren’t bettering ourselves than we must be struggling with anxiety and headed for a deep dark depression. I couldn’t disagree more, sometimes we can take a few weeks to just relax and reset  and in the end be better for it, not worse. Having good communication with Gavin also was vital because i truly believe even the smallest things need to be shared with each other. He totally got it, and laughed as I logged onto Netflix and watched “My Three Wives”.

 My time wasn’t spent sitting on the couch with a cereal box and a gallon of ice cream, I was resting a little more, going on a bunch of dates with Gavin, staying home with my kids, and taking a break from my working out regime of 5-6 times a week. Blogging took a little backseat and I actually finished a Netflix series which if you know me I never watch tv or movies so that was big. It was something new for me and it reminded me how much I loved the way I live but that sometimes I need a little reset.

See the things is, society has shaped us to believe that lull periods are bad. I’ve learned the opposite. Taking a minute to listen to yourself, be able to put jobs and things on hold in order to re-evaulate and reaffirm that where we are is where we want to be.

 It allowed me to refresh and restart my mindset without falling into a pity party, because honestly nothing was bad. A few good weeks of listening to myself and my body made me more aware of my families needs and my own, changing my routine and the things I was thinking about helped me jump into where I am now.

lulls are okay, as long as you propel out of it.

After a few weeks of just relaxing and letting go of expectations I had of myself as a mom to get this and that all done, I was ready. I guess a little more than ready, I was excited, energized and looking forward to getting back to our normal lifestyle. What I learned differently was in my day to day life which can get so busy and productive, its important for me to take the time and rest. Not just physically rest but mentally rest. With social media and the news, life never turns off, and there is a ton of power in learning how to do that ourselves.

I guess i feel a little rambly at this point but take this advice as if  we were sitting at a coffee shop talking, there is nothing more powerful than listenign to yourself. As a mother we are programmed to listen to the needs of others, and fix them and often times we forget that the person doing all the fixing might need a little water break. Take your water break, take it while youre not dying of thirst. Take it so you can rejuvinate with the ones that love you most and jump back in the game.

Here are five steps that helped me take a reset!

  1. Set a determined amount of time: mine was 3 weeks

  2. Set your goals: ” At the end of this i want to feel ____ , _____, and _____.  ( rejuvinated, more organized, clear minded)

  3. Write down what you are adding and subtracting to your life that will help you reach the goals

  4. Tell your accountability person.

  5. Read or have your goals somewhere you can see them and visit them daily.

Be the best you!

xoxo,

Stephanie

Happy Friday everyone!  I am writing to you today about a topic I get asked quite a bit about and its probably the one topic I shy away from talking about the most. Blogging. It’s almost as if I feel incredibly unqualified because I am so far from my goal, however doing this now for two years has taught me quite a bit, mostly from trial and error. By mostly I mean almost entirely from error, so you’re getting the good and raw advice here today.  I have gone through ups and downs, moments of thrill and disappointment and at the end of the day I still this because I love it. I love writing, meeting people who follow my blog, and I love creating something that my children and husband will be proud of.  An idea brought me here and passion is the reason i’ve stayed. Today I’m going to share my top 10 pieces of advice to anyone blogging or looking to blog.

Find Your Passion

When someone tells a story they are passionate about, you can feel it. Whether you feel that same passion or not, you’re still hooked. Starting your blog and writing about things you are passionate about is a must. By passion I don’t mean what you think is cool, what Instagram tells you is cool, I’m talking what you think about when you’re at a red light, sitting with your nails in the dryer at the salon. Choosing a topic that fuels you, that you can talk about for hours and truly enjoy is key in starting a blog. The best blogs and people I follow own their passion, and its real. I’ve seen it happen numerous times where people start a blog or an Instagram page and they have not found their passion because they are Helter Skelter covering so many random topics you can’t keep track, trying to post about what they think everyone else wants to hear. Recipe for disaster, seen it happen. Find what fuels you, sit and take time by writing down a list of the things you love the most. For me, it was motherhood and my family and writing and posting about my life with them is a piece of cake, its my passion and maybe its yours too!

Consistency is Key

Gavin told me right when I decided to blog that he was reading how important consistency is in Blogging. I have never held onto a piece of advice more, and its something that keeps me in-line with my goal. Consistency is important when you are talking to a group of people, creating your brand and asking people to trust you.  This is something I have to work on often and still fail at a lot these days. Consistency is creating a relationship with your followers by continuing to deliver. Sure, consistency can be slow or fast thats up to you, but there is a lot of power in being consistent.

 

Remember Why You Started.

The Blogging and Instagram world have a way of influencing you. Again. The Blogging and Instagram world have a way of influencing you. If I wasn’t going to be annoying by typing that again I would but I couldn’t stress this enough. SO many people have this awesome idea or Blog and overtime get sucked into changing their ways, their writing voice, their ideas because of how much they see “out there.” Before you start your blog or your journey, write a mission statement. What are you trying to accomplish, who are you at your core?  Best and easiest way is to focus on your about me section, write it out. Why are you writing? What inspires you? What is your goal? What are the values you cherish? There is power in knowing your foundation and there is nothing wrong with tweaking it overtime but I promise you it will continually remind you of why you started and keep you on a good path

 

Keep your Blinders on

New Flash, someone will always be “better” than you at something, maybe its writing, body shape, networking ability, the list goes on an on but in Blogging you have to remember the power you have that nobody else does. You are the only you. Keep your blinders on at first, don’t read other blogs or spend countless hours on Instagram under the #blogger. Work and put your energy into your own brand, build it up before you look outwards. This will help you solidify your writing voice, and your style that way when you do venture out it will often inspire rather than change you.

 

Stay Genuine and Personal

I remember one time I looked at my Direct Messages on Instagram and I had 51  message requests from people. Most of them were asking little questions or just saying a sweet comment and I hadn’t taken the time to respond. To this day I still hate that I got to that point. When you are building your brand or your Blog no matter how big or small there is serious value in creating personal and genuine relationships. Ignoring the very people who are reaching out to you is essentially ignoring the core of your following, the most engaged ones. Take the time and have a conversation, get to know your followers and readers.

Set Goals

I actually feel funny writing about this because its a topic I am trying to work on myself. With blogging I haven’t really set goals, I’ve literally just done this for fun for so long I’ve created a “whatever happens happens” attitude. However, I’m learning that setting goals doesn’t mean you have to change your ways, instead it helps create a clear path of the direction you are trying to go. Maybe your goal is a sponsored post, a Blog post comment, or a certain number of followers. Whatever your goal is, write it down and write three things you need to do in order to get there. Whether those three ways work or not, you will learn something new.

 

Don’t sell your authenticity for approval

Don’t fall into the trap of approval. This is by far the hardest when most of how we get sponsored posts and such are based on the “approval” rate of others. At the end of your day, when your computer is closed and your phone is off be sure you still care most about the opinions of those that are with you. I can guarantee you there is nothing on the internet that holds more value and satisfaction than having a loyal relationship with someone who loves you for you.

 

Hope you guys have an amazing weekend! If you have any questions or comments please feel free to comment below or get in contact with me on my Instagram!

 

xo,

Stephanie

Happy Monday everyone! Hope this post reaches you well. Currently sitting on the couch listening to Wyatt read Rosie play in the other room while I see the most fall morning ever outside! I love this time of year! Here on the central coast, the weather dips below 70 and I instantly get out our puffy Patagonia jackets and boots. We’ve officially hit fall and the rest of the year is MY FAVORITE, I actually just saw a Christmas advertisement and I about died. I would like to say the best days of 2018 are just ahead and fall is the opener.

The other day we went to U Pick Apples and I snapped a couple of these photos, they were seriously so cute and the place was awesome! Someone had told me about it and I went for the first time! It was so fun because we were Able to take a basket and head out into the Orchard and pick and eat apples. They said for as long as you’re out there you can taste apples so we probably ate more apples than we bought to be honest! Kids loved running up and down and Wyatt brought his tractor and loaded all of his apples in there!

I love getting Wyatt and Rosie out to do fun things during this time of year because its all so festive and beautiful. Today I am sharing with you guys my fall musts for the Central Coast of California! Just a little list of goodies and memorable spots to create traditions, make memories, and enjoy life with the ones you love!

Feel free to drag this image to your desktop or go to my Instagram and screenshot it in my stories today!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Lately, life has been going 598 miles an hour and I feel like i can hardly keep up.  I feel this pressure sometimes to take the pictures and share all the updates but when it doesn’t feel natural i’ve made a deal with myself. If sitting down and writing doesn’t come natural, I need to do everyone a favor and wait until it does. Nothing is more annoying than a forced post of information that lacks value. So rest assured sitting here today, in my living room as Rosie plays with cups and Wyatt attempts to put a sock on a blue building block, that I am happy to be writing today!

Welcome to Friday Roundup, a random slew of updates about our life from family updates, home details and always ending with a happy thought or two!

I turned 28!

Weird right?! Isn’t it funny when you get to an age and you’re like “I thought by (insert number) i would have four kids, a house, two dogs ect..” I swear i thought by 28 i would have had at least 4 children but life has a funny way of showing us our plans are not in our hands. If i had four kids right now i think i would be in the loony bin. Anyways, I had an amazing birthday, and adorable Gavin actually planned an entire birthday party for me with my immediate family. I had mentioned a long time ago i wanted to go Central Coast Archery and practice and he put that in his memory bank and planned an afternoon there. We loved it, Wyatt was in heaven and you can see he was super focused.Special thanks to our friends KK and Joel for hosting us!  Anyone ever try something new and before you go you think, “This could be it, my sport” and then your first try you’re horrible? Yea, that was me hahah! It was such a blast and I love the idea of always trying new things!

Three Day Trip to Kauai

Ever heard of a three day trip to Kauai, me either! I was lucky enough to sneak over to the Island for a hot second to celebrate my sister getting married and Rosie and I had such  blast! I can’t wait for the day to get here, September 29th! I am the maid of honor and writing this post reminds me i need to start my speech!

Red Tagged.

Sounds about as horrible as it sounds. We got a total hault on the construction side of our Farmhouse but thankfully Mr. Hurst, from the city has been nothing short of amazing working with us! We are back on schedule and I am so happy to announce we have an architect, Kyle Harris! He so graciously offered to take on our project despite his busy schedule. Although we have to wait to get our plans in order before we start building anything back up, we still have lots of work on landscape and details in the meantime so we are still going full force. Plus, the amount of packages that are coming in make me feel like a kid on Christmas every single day!

Ro is 1!

Cue the tears. Felt like yesterday I was writng all about her birth story. She is such a joy, so happy, so obsessed with Wyatt and everything she does. What I love is that she genuinely loves her people, her eyes light up when she is with them. I always tell myself I hope she loves me like i love my mom and as of now she’s a pretty big mamas girl. We did a super small party with a cake from Arroyo Grande Bakery and sang to her outside. I love small birthdays.

 

Hope you guys have the best weekend! Rosie is trying to eat the dog food so ill end here!!

xo,

Stephanie

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