Happy Tuesday, hope you guys have had a good start to this week, im happy you’re here! Im here writing to you today because I went through a minute where I allowed myself to rest. A lull. A reset if you will.I didn’t think it was going to be very transformative and I didn’t want to post anything about it because one thing I wish I was better at was less chatter, more action. I write you to on the other side with my little mental reset behind me and thought I would share. I feel there is value in things that actually work, help, and make me a better person and I hope you take something away from this today!

In a society obsessed with bettering yourself ( which i love most of the time), its impossible not to be inspired and uplifted everywhere you turn. Positive quotes fill my Instagram stories and my audible book Girl, Wash your face has been anxiously waiting for me to hit play and start listening. However, I felt like I was in a season of life where I just want to curl up and hang with Gavin and the kids, stay away from my blog and anything that pushes me to do the “extra”.

I felt like I was tricked into thinking that busy-ness and progression are the only ways to live positively.

I wouldn’t call it a funk as much as much as a rest or a mindful reset, not because of any specific reason but just because I honestly just wanted to feel less inspired  by what society wanted me to feel was positive and more what I felt in my heart.

So  I listened to myself, and I gave myself some time. Without talking about it to anyone, except Gavin of course.

I didn’t fall into a trap of sadness, in fact I was totally happy and enjoying it. I think there is this weird idea that if we aren’t bettering ourselves than we must be struggling with anxiety and headed for a deep dark depression. I couldn’t disagree more, sometimes we can take a few weeks to just relax and reset  and in the end be better for it, not worse. Having good communication with Gavin also was vital because i truly believe even the smallest things need to be shared with each other. He totally got it, and laughed as I logged onto Netflix and watched “My Three Wives”.

 My time wasn’t spent sitting on the couch with a cereal box and a gallon of ice cream, I was resting a little more, going on a bunch of dates with Gavin, staying home with my kids, and taking a break from my working out regime of 5-6 times a week. Blogging took a little backseat and I actually finished a Netflix series which if you know me I never watch tv or movies so that was big. It was something new for me and it reminded me how much I loved the way I live but that sometimes I need a little reset.

See the things is, society has shaped us to believe that lull periods are bad. I’ve learned the opposite. Taking a minute to listen to yourself, be able to put jobs and things on hold in order to re-evaulate and reaffirm that where we are is where we want to be.

 It allowed me to refresh and restart my mindset without falling into a pity party, because honestly nothing was bad. A few good weeks of listening to myself and my body made me more aware of my families needs and my own, changing my routine and the things I was thinking about helped me jump into where I am now.

lulls are okay, as long as you propel out of it.

After a few weeks of just relaxing and letting go of expectations I had of myself as a mom to get this and that all done, I was ready. I guess a little more than ready, I was excited, energized and looking forward to getting back to our normal lifestyle. What I learned differently was in my day to day life which can get so busy and productive, its important for me to take the time and rest. Not just physically rest but mentally rest. With social media and the news, life never turns off, and there is a ton of power in learning how to do that ourselves.

I guess i feel a little rambly at this point but take this advice as if  we were sitting at a coffee shop talking, there is nothing more powerful than listenign to yourself. As a mother we are programmed to listen to the needs of others, and fix them and often times we forget that the person doing all the fixing might need a little water break. Take your water break, take it while youre not dying of thirst. Take it so you can rejuvinate with the ones that love you most and jump back in the game.

Here are five steps that helped me take a reset!

  1. Set a determined amount of time: mine was 3 weeks

  2. Set your goals: ” At the end of this i want to feel ____ , _____, and _____.  ( rejuvinated, more organized, clear minded)

  3. Write down what you are adding and subtracting to your life that will help you reach the goals

  4. Tell your accountability person.

  5. Read or have your goals somewhere you can see them and visit them daily.

Be the best you!

xoxo,

Stephanie

Happy Monday everyone! Hope this post reaches you at a happy moment of your day, I know we all can’t wait for Monday to pass so cheers to it being almost done! As usual the kids are down for naps after a long run this morning, and like all moms I’m sitting here typing this just waiting for one of them to wake up. I swear there is some sixth sense kids have where they can tell (sleeping or awake) if mom is relaxing or doing something for ourselves and they immediately wake up and need desperate and total attention. Im sure someday ill figure it out.

I thought today I would share with you guys a few essentials I take when I go workout with my kids. I know it can be hard and overwhelming at times with little ones but overtime I have really gotten a good grip of what works for me. As always, what works for one mom doesn’t work the same for others but hopefully you can take a little something and work with it.

Jogging Stroller  

I love this double Bob stroller which I got after we had Rosie, it is not the lightest stroller on the block but its sturdy and has great storage. The three wheel feature makes it super easy to maneuver and the wide handle is perfect for resting arms or hanging diaper bags from. I don’t have the insert that allows you to put your phone and water bottle in it but its linked here and I really want it! Also, this is another thing I was thinking of buying which is a little snack tray! Here is the snack tray

Snacks + Water Bottles

When any mom says ” I have snacks” its like our children’s ears ring of happiness. Having ample snacks and a water bottle or juice for kids is so important. Rosie is like a garbage disposal these days so having lots of great little things keeps her busy and distracted! Here is the water bottle we use, and I love it. Here is the snack tin I usually forget to bring but I wish I remembered every time because its awesome and super easy to wash!

Ear pods 

These are worth the money, promise. What I love is that they double as a bluetooth so in my car I can talk to Gavin or whoever on them and when I’m running I only have to use one. Running with two kids lends to answering a lot of questions so if I had two in I’m pretty sure they would freak out.

Running Shoes 

Okay, the ones I have actually look like orthopedic shoes and aren’t exactly the cutest but they are by FAR the best running shoes I’ve ever owned. The brand across the board has shoes that really make you feel like you’re running on pillows. These are the ones I have, look around at the others too they are great.

Binoculars 

Sounds funny, right? Its not. Wyatt literally is mesmerized for a god 30-40 minutes looking around for animals and trees ect. These are the ones we have and they work great, plus they come with a little carrier which makes keeping them at the bottom of my stroller easy! If I don’t have those I usually just pack a few good toys, I’m not a “no screen” strict mom but if I can control them not using it I will try my best!

These are just a few of the items I use, and have worked for me! Hope you guys have the best week!

xox,

Stephanie

Ah! Rosie just fell asleep and Wyatt is at preschool so I’m taking my time and ignoring my giant pile of camping gear that needs to be put away in order to write about an amazing little getaway we just got back from.

If I close my eyes I can still hear Wyatt giggling with his grandma over a funny peanut song as they sat together on a camping bench, my nephew in a homeschool session in the tent putting numbers together with Brea, and the sound of the truck’s diesel engine as Gavin returned back from an early morning surf session with his dad, brother and uncle. It was one of those getaways where you look around, breath and think “this is life.”

You wouldn’t have had any idea at that moment that our Studabaker Camper overheated 4 miles from the campsite the day before and changed our plans entirely.

Ill never forget looking behind me as Gavin pulled off the side of the 101 with an engine blowing smoke everywhere. When I finally turned around and got to the side with him he goes “look, we are not going to say one thing negative about this, we are going to stay positive and everything is going to be just fine.” What was supposed to be our “home” for camping was completely unpacked and shoved into my 4Runner within minutes and brought to the campsite. What was going to be an indoor living trailer turned into a new 5 person tent, sleeping bags, and an outdoor kitchen. I have been working a lot on mindset lately and this was one instance where having practiced a bit totally paid off because we turned what could have been a disaster into a laughable and light adventure. Looking back it was a ton of fun and I’m happy to share that little adventure because its one we won’t forget.

When we got settled into our tent, the kids were going crazy with excitement. Camping is not new to Gavin, his Eagle Scout kicked right in and he was getting all organized and teaching me everything he could think of, I loved it. Me, on the other hand, can’t remember a time in my life I slept in a tent. I was a rookie at age 28 which is a little embarrassing but hey we all have to start somewhere.

There were seventeen people and two dogs total camping with us in our group spot at El Capitan Campsite so you can imagine the fun and craziness that was going on. Wyatt and Rosie were practically held by someone else for three days straight. They were in heaven. Being the little kids they were constantly entertained by cousins, aunts, uncles and grandparents. From playing catch with Jarom, Ninja Turtles with Jedidiah, getting bottle fed by Naomi, learning to cook pumpkin cake with Auntie Keara, or holding Auntie Brea’s hands down into the ocean my kids were on a life high. So many times I sat and thought to myself how precious family time outdoors really is.

The second day was spent at the beach and Wyatt and Rosie loved every second of it. Rosie was obsessed with the Ocean and was trying to get anyone and everyone to take her into it. Wyatt was busy chasing around his cousins Jeremiah and Forrest trying to learn and watch whatever they were doing. It was so fun to sit on the beach with my mother in and law and sister in law just watching the kids run around and the guys hop from activity to activity. That night I went and got a Campsite map with my nephew Jeremiah and together with some of my nieces we created a treasure hunt around the campground. Kids went crazy searching the area and finding the gold chocolate coins. I can still picture them all walking like a train, hands on each other’s shoulders from area to area.

Driving home I couldn’t help but think about a few things I will leave you with here today…

there is serous power in unplugging
going somewhere where you have to create fun is well worth the energy you put into it
making time for family is the most important and valuable use of time
when plans change, go with it.

 

Happy Thursday everyone!

xoxo,

Steph

Happy Friday everyone!  I am writing to you today about a topic I get asked quite a bit about and its probably the one topic I shy away from talking about the most. Blogging. It’s almost as if I feel incredibly unqualified because I am so far from my goal, however doing this now for two years has taught me quite a bit, mostly from trial and error. By mostly I mean almost entirely from error, so you’re getting the good and raw advice here today.  I have gone through ups and downs, moments of thrill and disappointment and at the end of the day I still this because I love it. I love writing, meeting people who follow my blog, and I love creating something that my children and husband will be proud of.  An idea brought me here and passion is the reason i’ve stayed. Today I’m going to share my top 10 pieces of advice to anyone blogging or looking to blog.

Find Your Passion

When someone tells a story they are passionate about, you can feel it. Whether you feel that same passion or not, you’re still hooked. Starting your blog and writing about things you are passionate about is a must. By passion I don’t mean what you think is cool, what Instagram tells you is cool, I’m talking what you think about when you’re at a red light, sitting with your nails in the dryer at the salon. Choosing a topic that fuels you, that you can talk about for hours and truly enjoy is key in starting a blog. The best blogs and people I follow own their passion, and its real. I’ve seen it happen numerous times where people start a blog or an Instagram page and they have not found their passion because they are Helter Skelter covering so many random topics you can’t keep track, trying to post about what they think everyone else wants to hear. Recipe for disaster, seen it happen. Find what fuels you, sit and take time by writing down a list of the things you love the most. For me, it was motherhood and my family and writing and posting about my life with them is a piece of cake, its my passion and maybe its yours too!

Consistency is Key

Gavin told me right when I decided to blog that he was reading how important consistency is in Blogging. I have never held onto a piece of advice more, and its something that keeps me in-line with my goal. Consistency is important when you are talking to a group of people, creating your brand and asking people to trust you.  This is something I have to work on often and still fail at a lot these days. Consistency is creating a relationship with your followers by continuing to deliver. Sure, consistency can be slow or fast thats up to you, but there is a lot of power in being consistent.

 

Remember Why You Started.

The Blogging and Instagram world have a way of influencing you. Again. The Blogging and Instagram world have a way of influencing you. If I wasn’t going to be annoying by typing that again I would but I couldn’t stress this enough. SO many people have this awesome idea or Blog and overtime get sucked into changing their ways, their writing voice, their ideas because of how much they see “out there.” Before you start your blog or your journey, write a mission statement. What are you trying to accomplish, who are you at your core?  Best and easiest way is to focus on your about me section, write it out. Why are you writing? What inspires you? What is your goal? What are the values you cherish? There is power in knowing your foundation and there is nothing wrong with tweaking it overtime but I promise you it will continually remind you of why you started and keep you on a good path

 

Keep your Blinders on

New Flash, someone will always be “better” than you at something, maybe its writing, body shape, networking ability, the list goes on an on but in Blogging you have to remember the power you have that nobody else does. You are the only you. Keep your blinders on at first, don’t read other blogs or spend countless hours on Instagram under the #blogger. Work and put your energy into your own brand, build it up before you look outwards. This will help you solidify your writing voice, and your style that way when you do venture out it will often inspire rather than change you.

 

Stay Genuine and Personal

I remember one time I looked at my Direct Messages on Instagram and I had 51  message requests from people. Most of them were asking little questions or just saying a sweet comment and I hadn’t taken the time to respond. To this day I still hate that I got to that point. When you are building your brand or your Blog no matter how big or small there is serious value in creating personal and genuine relationships. Ignoring the very people who are reaching out to you is essentially ignoring the core of your following, the most engaged ones. Take the time and have a conversation, get to know your followers and readers.

Set Goals

I actually feel funny writing about this because its a topic I am trying to work on myself. With blogging I haven’t really set goals, I’ve literally just done this for fun for so long I’ve created a “whatever happens happens” attitude. However, I’m learning that setting goals doesn’t mean you have to change your ways, instead it helps create a clear path of the direction you are trying to go. Maybe your goal is a sponsored post, a Blog post comment, or a certain number of followers. Whatever your goal is, write it down and write three things you need to do in order to get there. Whether those three ways work or not, you will learn something new.

 

Don’t sell your authenticity for approval

Don’t fall into the trap of approval. This is by far the hardest when most of how we get sponsored posts and such are based on the “approval” rate of others. At the end of your day, when your computer is closed and your phone is off be sure you still care most about the opinions of those that are with you. I can guarantee you there is nothing on the internet that holds more value and satisfaction than having a loyal relationship with someone who loves you for you.

 

Hope you guys have an amazing weekend! If you have any questions or comments please feel free to comment below or get in contact with me on my Instagram!

 

xo,

Stephanie

Happy Monday everyone! Hope this post reaches you well. Currently sitting on the couch listening to Wyatt read Rosie play in the other room while I see the most fall morning ever outside! I love this time of year! Here on the central coast, the weather dips below 70 and I instantly get out our puffy Patagonia jackets and boots. We’ve officially hit fall and the rest of the year is MY FAVORITE, I actually just saw a Christmas advertisement and I about died. I would like to say the best days of 2018 are just ahead and fall is the opener.

The other day we went to U Pick Apples and I snapped a couple of these photos, they were seriously so cute and the place was awesome! Someone had told me about it and I went for the first time! It was so fun because we were Able to take a basket and head out into the Orchard and pick and eat apples. They said for as long as you’re out there you can taste apples so we probably ate more apples than we bought to be honest! Kids loved running up and down and Wyatt brought his tractor and loaded all of his apples in there!

I love getting Wyatt and Rosie out to do fun things during this time of year because its all so festive and beautiful. Today I am sharing with you guys my fall musts for the Central Coast of California! Just a little list of goodies and memorable spots to create traditions, make memories, and enjoy life with the ones you love!

Feel free to drag this image to your desktop or go to my Instagram and screenshot it in my stories today!